As my husband and I celebrate another wedding anniversary, I think of one advice that I try to live by in my marriage.
To always keep my word no matter how small and mundane; this goes a long way to build trust
For instance, if I constantly promise to take out the trash and forget to do so, although it may seem insignificant, slowly my failure to keep my word will chip away at the foundation of trust that we have established; and soon my husband will start taking everything I say with a grain of salt.
I visualize trust like a long rope you give another person and with every time trust is broken, a piece of the rope is burned off until there is nothing left and trust once lost and cannot be easily gained back.
Even with this visualization, I think how long the rope God has given me is! For the many times I have disappointed Him, you’d think I’d have burnt through my rope years ago. However, a scripture comes to mind:
If we are not steadfast [trustworthy], he remaineth steadfast [trustworthy]; to deny himself he is not able. 2 Timothy 2:13 Young’s Literal Translation
God is steadfast, unwavering, and unfailing. Its His divine nature to never fail and to keep to His word. His thoughts and actions are consistent with His character which is to be steadfast and unfailing. He does not waver in His promises.
The greatest promise I made to my husband was in my wedding vows: to love him through everything. But even then, most times my love is conditional. On a day like today, when its our anniversary, I LOVE him! But who knows how I’ll feel tomorrow when it’s just an ordinary day! No wonder Micah said
Don’t trust anyone–not your best friend or even your wife! Micah 5:7 NLT (you need to read it in context though!)
I can be wishy-washy in my love. But not God! He is not wishy-washy about His love. He promised to love us with an everlasting love. A love that is steadfast and never fails. He promised this steadfast love will never cease and to guarantee this, He renews His love every morning so its fresh. He sees you like it’s the first time He is falling in love with you…. and then he loves on you all day… and in the morning His love resets and He starts all over again! That’s my interpretation of this scripture:
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness [trustworthiness, steadfastness] Lamentations 3:22-23 ESV
Oh I remember how it was like when my husband and I were dating! how fresh… how sweet that love was… but I digress…
So dear reader, as you set out to be intentional, I encourage you with this song:
This we know
We will see the enemy run
This we know
We will see the victory come
We hold on to every promise You ever made
Jesus, You are unfailing (Vertical Worship)
Dedicated to my loving husband….